It seems many women are losing faith in the male gender. Myself included. Where are all the good ones? Definitely not on the dance floor of a bar on a Saturday night. I don’t understand what happened to chivalry - somewhere in the last century it has dwindled and is now in limited supply. There seems to be an endless supply of ‘boys’ who have this delusion that a couple drinks and some half-assed compliments will get them “lucky”; not so much loser. What happened to getting to know someone? Having meaningful conversations? Developing a relationship that is not 98% physical. I want to date someone that will become my best friend. Someone that I have an emotional attachment to, and someone that I can love. I also do not want to have to act like an idiot around a guy. I am a smart person…get over it, and over yourself. Am I a feminist? I don’t think so. I want to have someone that can take care of me, but I also want to have someone to take care of. Cooking is no fun for one. I like the idea of a “traditional” relationship, the romance is compelling. But I am also not delusional, I know that nobody is perfect.
I guess as I get older I am becoming more aware of the double standard that exists between genders with regards to relationships and sexuality. Men seem to be able to go out and be completely unattached, emotionless, robots that ‘play the field’, where as when women attempt the same behaviour, portraying their inner ‘Samantha’, they are degraded and called promiscuous. Why is this still an issue? Like, haven’t we moved beyond this? But what I find more troubling then being labelled for actions is the portrayal of men as emotionless - like who doesn’t want to be genuinely loved? That is the most basic human emotion! Why are guys so afraid to show it? Or to look for it? Or to even admit they want it? I guess I’ll just never be the type of girl that finds spending time with strangers a desirable way to spend a Saturday night.
